the gift of singleness.
I am in the middle of my 21st year of singleness but since i wasn't allowed to date until i was sixteen, i guess it's only fair to say that i am really only in my 5th year. However, you get the point right? I have spent my entire life single and while I will be the first to admit that I am still very young and most likely won't spend my entire life single it is still to this day...
the most used tool that God has used to shape and refine me.
There is nothing else that my Savior has used more to teach, break, re-build, sanctify, and mold me than the gift of singleness.
Before this series gets rolling there are a few important things that I need you to know if you are interested in journeying through this series with me!
1. The topics in this series will be both hard and vulnerable. I will be sharing how God used tough situations and my failures to reveal more of Himself and His will to me. I will be as honest as I can be in how I often manipulated situation to try and get what i wanted and how God protected me regardless. I will do this in the hopes that you might be able to relate in some way and because of that, be reminded of God's goodness and glory.
2. I recognize that there are a lot of people out there who have been single longer than I have and who are more experienced and more wise on this topic! Please know that I am not trying to say that this is the only way to receive singleness. Rather, I just want to share my story with you and the things that God has taught me along the way.
3. Lastly, it is important to me that you all know that though this series is titled "the gift of singleness" that it has taken me a very long time to consider singleness a gift and I still struggle on a lot of days of wanting to refuse the gift all together. I often find myself telling God, "This isn't the gift I wanted" or "Ok, thank you Lord for singleness because now I can see how dramatically you have used it in my life buuuutttt, I'm good now. I'm ready for another gift. And can it be exactly the way I want it?" I say this so you know that I mean it when I say singleness is a gift... but it wasn't easy getting there and I still have to remind myself daily that it is the very best thing for me in this moment.
So whether you find yourself married, widowed, divorced, engaged, dating, or single I invite you to journey along with me as I process through my particular journey thus far because even if you don't find yourself where I am you still might find how some of these things can relate to where you are right now. After all, no matter what our marriage status is, if we call ourselves believers in Christ than we all have the very same purpose and goal.
Some of the topics that we will be covering will include:
- why singleness is a gift
- what to do with loneliness
- does God really want everything?
- the pain of rejection
- what to do when others are receiving the gifts you want and you are receiving something different.
- feeling un-seen, un-wanted, and un-desirable
- how to be content in the waiting period... no matter how long that might be!
- and how to not waste your singleness!
Feel free to message me if you have any other ideas of topics that you would like for me to dig into. I will be intentional in being open and honest as well as digging into scripture to find answers and guidance!
so, whether I am single for 10 more days or 10 more years I invite you into my story of how God has used the desire of wanting a relationship to wreck my world and to show me how very good the gift of singleness is but more importantly how very good He is.
sweeeet! I am sooo into this series with you. plus, I am praying for you also. this is a great idea. god be with you. and I as you post these messages.
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